Shop for Mother's Day (Part One)

Before you hit me with cotton balls saying Mother's Day should be celebrated every day, I must say, I agree with you 100%. (Most) mums (and dads) sacrifice so much for their family. My mum isn't the type to expect gifts and the only thing she really does nowadays is read.

When I was younger, we might have a special dinner to celebrate birthdays but no so much for Father's/ Mother's days. My mum is an independent lady. She does what she wants, when she wants. She was the "bad cop" to my dad's "good cop" when it came to my studies. Because of her, I was transferred to another school when my grades started to slip when I was about 9. I paid attention in school but I needed more attention than a teacher with 40 kids in a class could give me, and she recognized that.

 When I had appendicitis at 10, she stayed with me in the hospital in an uncomfortable chair/sofa so I wouldn't be alone. My parents bought me the McDonald's toy which really made my day as I was collecting that particular collection then.

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Remember them?

They brought me Beano and Dandy comics and magazines and made sure I was well taken care of. I don't think I was a handful to handle (I think!) because my parents brought me up in a way that we always had open discussions about anything under the sun. They always explained why they had to do or not do certain things, and trusted me. I didn't have to sneak out for parties as I just simply told them the truth and as long as they knew who I was hanging out with and where, it was usually no issue. When it was time to choose a college programme, I was clearly lost. I had no idea what to do.


 I had friends who knew they wanted to be doctors or housewives as soon as they were born left school but I was clueless, so my parents did some research about a few institutions and just before SPM, started approaching them with my trial results. Because of my clueless-ness, they enrolled me in a "safe-bet" programme- a Business Executive Programme where I learned all aspects of a business.

I'm glad I got enrolled there as I reunited with a childhood friend and made new friends who remain my besties today.

Back to mum! After graduating, she attended a few job interviews with me. (Yes, the start of the term "helicopter parent") but she didn't attend them WITH me. She simply made sure that the companies I went to were genuine and that I was safe, not alone with some freaky boss/stalker/psychopath.

When it was time to marry ( I was dating my now hubby for 8 years), she pulled her "psychomum" act (used a lot during school) on us and made us decide on whether we wanted to be married or she would ship me out somewhere.



We thought "what the Hell" and decided to get married. It wasn't easy getting a venue at the end of the year with just two month's notice, without spending two arms and two legs but she managed to find us a nice hall at a reasonable price. That's how supermom-ly she can be. I was too busy with work then to really focus on the wedding (and weddings are where parents get things done their way anyway, especially in Malaysia).

Now that hubby and I live on our own, I see her on a bi-weekly basis. We usually meet over a meal, catching up on current affairs and religious matters. She has a wicked sense of humour and she's really caring and I'm lucky to have her (despite her wonkiness sometimes!).

NEXT POST : Shop for Mother's Day (Part Two)

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  1. My mom was never around during my childhood years, she was the one bringing home the bacon. So a close relationship with her couldn't be fully established because there was no quality time spent to together. After I had kids of my own, that's when we really started to communicate more often thanks to technology since she still works abroad, so we only see her a couple of days a year, total. A Mother's Day shoutout on social media with a long heart felt message always scores well with my mom, so I'm sticking with that again this year. And maybe cooking her favorite dish, but then she'd just be envious coz she can't eat it herself haha.

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  2. It can be tough balancing a career and a life at home. My parents worked really long hours too and so I spend most of the day with my grandma and weekends with my parents. New technology is amazing and it's wonderful that your mum is so tech savvy! My mum doesn't even want to learn to SMS! She prefers calls. Sigh..

    What's your mum's favourite dish? I know for sure I can't cook what she likes - briyani and beef so I might just make spaghetti this year. Maybe you could get a restaurant near where she stays to deliver her favourite dish to her with flowers? The internet can do amazing things :)

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